Love them and leave the rest to me

I struggled for words this morning as I come crashing down after a particularly challenging counselling session.  The first thing I wrote, well that wasn’t for this Blog, but it revealed to me an incredible hurt that I need to give to God and an admission that there are a number of people in my life who I can’t change.  Much as I want to, that’s not my job and I feel like God has given me the message today to just love them and leave the rest to him.


Love them and leave the rest to me, love them with all your heart, you cannot change what’s in them, that’s not your part to play, that’s mine, God’s. I am their loving Father just like I am yours, just as they cannot change you, your life changed when you allowed me in, your life changed when you recognised the sin that held you back, you can’t put them on track, you need to trust, to love with compassion, to love with no agenda and let me be the one to whisper quietly in their ear, let me be the one to melt their heart, let me be the one who sets them apart, stop striving, stop living life as if you have to be the one to change what you cannot change, rest in me, allow my hand to guide your way, don’t think or say that you’re not enough, failing because you failed to make them listen, that’s not your job, that’s not what I asked of you, just love them as you love me, you have an incredible capacity to love, don’t drown in noise that’s not of me, don’t be afraid of the silence as I speak, don’t see it as a sign of weakness, humble yourself and allow me to take this

May you be so blessed you can’t contain it

My daily reading “respond” challenged us to write a short blessing for someone.  Always up for a challenge I have written the following based on these verses

  • Luke 1:45 – Blessed is she who has believed that the Lord would fulfil his promises to her!’
  • Exodus 14:14 – The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still
  • Psalm 23:5 – You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies.
    You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.
  • Isaiah 45:8 – You heavens above, rain down my righteousness; let the clouds shower it down. Let the earth open wide, let salvation spring up, let righteousness flourish with it; I, the Lord, have created it.
  • Psalm 37:4 – Take delight in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart.


May your cup overflow with blessings, may you be so blessed you can’t contain it, may you never forget God’s timing is perfect, he never fails you nor forsakes you, as your prayers go up, may blessings fall down, may they be as countless as the grains of sand and as the Lord commands his angels to look after you may you feel peace, as you count your blessings as you name them one by one may you never cease to be overwhelmed at all that God has done, may salvation spring up within your family, may the Lord prepare your table, anoint you freely, may your cup completely overflow with blessings and I’m guessing what I’m really saying is may God’s face shine upon you today, be blessed my friends in every way.


Don’t stand back if I need a proverbial slapping

Charlotte Gambill at Cherish challenged those there to “be bold enough to have some friends that will help you face some facts.”  I was watching her today and thought, you know what that also works the other way round, be bold enough to help our friends face facts.  I don’t think in any way that this has to be harsh or confrontational but as with all our dealing should be done in love and truth.  I so want my friends to challenge me if they see me doing something they feel is detrimental to my faith or is something that as a Christian I shouldn’t be doing.  I want accountability and I believe God has surrounded me with a friendship group who can help him keep me on track.  But am I equipped or bold enough to give that back?  I feel I am growing in confidence, growing in my knowledge and understanding of the Bible yet still sometimes feel that as a relatively new Christian I shouldn’t challenge stuff because I’m not as experienced or knowledgeable as others.  But I reckon God wants me to get over that issue as we are encouraged to build each other up and correct each other if required.

  •  1 Thessalonians 5:11 – Therefore encourage one another and build each other up, just as in fact you are doing.
  • 2 Timothy 3:16 – All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness,
  • Proverbs 19:20 -Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.
  • 2 Timothy 4:2 – Preach the word; be ready in season and out of season; reprove, rebuke, and exhort, with complete patience and teaching.
  • Galatians 6:1 – Brothers, if anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness. Keep watch on yourself, lest you too be tempted.


Encourage me, be bold and challenge me, see, if you don’t tell me who will?  If you don’t think my behaviour would please our Saviour then talk to me, Jesus freed me, he’s making me a new creation but that takes time and that takes patience but Jesus can use us to do some of that stuff, and I can’t tell you enough how important it is to me, my accountability, your responsibility, your accountability, my responsibility, you see God’s word clearly teaches that we should reach out to each other in love and compassion so don’t stand back if I need a proverbial slapping, stop slacking, talk to me, restore me to the path God chose for me, encourage me as you would a child as I take my first steps in faith, but even when I’m grey and old be bold if I need correction, you’ll get no objection from me as you gently correct or challenge me, I thank you for speaking to me in love, I thank you for being bothered enough to care, thank you for being there, a friend to help me face the facts, watching my back, helping me to be the best I can, encouraging me to stick to God’s plan.

You’re one of the people God gave to me

At my last counselling session we covered friendships (or lack of in my past) and how I struggle now to really form friendships or believe in the ones I have.  This is a product of my childhood, unfortunately carried with me through life, but now, as a Christian I am seeing that people are different, I am learning to drop my guard a bit more and allow people in.  There is still sometimes a feeling of “don’t let them get too close for fear of getting hurt” but you know what, I know I won’t get hurt and I am beginning to allow myself to believe that people are there for me come what may, they won’t let me down.  Had some prayer about this today and am just so grateful to God for the people he has put in my life, I know over time I will be able to put my “friendship” issues behind me and start to trust more.  I wrote this for the small circle of Christian friends in my life who (probably unknowingly) are helping me on this particular journey, this being just one more barrier to break down to help me move forward.

Proverbs 18:24 – One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.


You’re one of the people God gave to me, I asked God for you and he delivered, every person put into my life for a reason, part of his perfect preparation for my future, a God-ordained friend for my times of adversity, a certainty in my uncertainty, a rock, a tower of strength who goes to great lengths to be there for me and here’s what I’m learning, God loves me personally, powerfully, passionately, where others have promised and failed God has promised and succeeded, his love unfailing and when I was aching, my heart breaking he gave me my friends, my co-warriors he reached down from above and lifted me from the deep waters and I ought to have seen that he would surround me with strength and security, delivered by those who sincerely care for me and I don’t have to worry or be filled with anxiety about your feelings or friendship for me, I need do nothing more than I do cos you guys are filled with God’s love too, you mirror his ways, his love shines through you, and you see the best of me, build me up, support me and offer me sanctuary when I allow insecurity to get to me and today I praise God that he gave you to me, I praise him for friendships that will last for eternity.

A friend who never fails, not even a little bit!

You know on earth we have loads of friends and family surrounding us, but sometimes can still feel alone.  I have been reading about how God never fails us and just find it amazing that I can always turn to him, in every situation, even if I have failed him and his love will not have changed and he is still there for me!


Can you say of anyone you know that their love never fails, they never give up on you, never for an instant get just a tiny bit mad with you, never say a cross word or mutter under their breath, never let a tiny frown reach their face, is there anyone who fulfils all your needs, exceeds your expectations, has infinite patience in every situation?

I have a friend who will never fail me, he never surrenders, is my defender in good times and bad, when storms rage I have no need to be afraid because he loves me as if I were the only one alive, his love is all consuming, his love is unassuming and check this out, he never gives up, never lets go and even though we continue to fail him, he will not be shaken and even more good news for those who love him, just call to him and he answers and he will tell you great and mighty things, he sings songs to calm and comfort you just cast your cares upon him, he does not want you to be timid he didn’t create you that way, so break away from your fear of failure and turn to my loving Saviour who heals your broken heart, will tend your wounded soul and wants to make you whole.

So it’s God who gives me all this love and that sort of makes the rest of us sound like we are a little lame, no shame in being human it’s just that we’re not wired the same as our amazing God whose love will never fail and whilst I can’t boast about my love for a God who I fail daily, I can surely boast about his love for you and me, you see his love never fails us, never leaves us, he walks besides us, gently guides us, sometimes chides us, never gives up on us and in him I put all my trust.

It’s not religion, it’s faith

Watching a Clayton Jennings post this morning on Facebook and he’s telling of his 83 year old neighbour who just gave her life to God.  She had known about Jesus and believed in him but never before repented from her sin.  it just goes to show it is never too late and this is just one awesome example of God’s total and never ending love for us, even at 83 years old.

So I resolve today to not stop plugging God when I can to my family and friends who as yet have not given their lives to him, because it is never too late and if God can shine his light through me, then I pray he does so night and day.


Been thinking about family and friends who as yet have declined to listen to God, who see no place for him in their hearts, who can’t understand a burning desire to spend time with the “Messiah”, who say that religion is the cause of all problems, religion the common denominator in wars and conflicts, religion depicted as a contradiction, the cause of so much worldly friction.  But what I’m telling ain’t religion, it’s a personal decision to believe in a God who has forgiven me, who died so that I could be free to choose to follow his teaching, to understand the meaning of his sacrifice for my own life, that’s not religion, it’s a conscious decision to be forgiven, a deliberate choice to rejoice in the opportunities God has given me to grow and develop within a faith, to change the face of my life, to hand back to him all the strife and receive in its place a shedload of peace, for my brain at last to feel ease from the turmoil of my past, and if asked I will answer, it’s never too late for you to say I want some of that, I want to be free, God forgives you so easily.

No matter how hard things get, I have my God, my Friend..

How good it feels to have a friend called Jesus, if he is for me, WHO can be against me?


No matter how hard things get, tomorrow’s a new day to make it better, no matter how low I feel I can climb higher, mountains are conquered one step at a time, don’t let negativity reflect in my eyes, haven’t you heard, lessons are learned by listening hard, no one got the reward for giving up or turning away, whoever said life was easy was lying, just saying…. face the truth, life is hard and we are scarred from past experience, don’t be deceived by my appearance, the scars are real, they’re a big deal, reminder of the hurt, the pain, a memory of an insane time when I was a prime target for the enemy, who delighted in confusing me, in messing with my thoughts and dreams, who had a myriad of schemes to keep me from moving forward, happy when I was spiralling downwards towards a place of real despair, he desired to keep me there.

No matter how hard things get, today I have no regrets, cos now I have someone to talk to, someone to run to when I fail, someone to turn to when I’m frail, when I’m feeling overwhelmed, life is hard, but he is God, yep he is God and he is hard enough to fight my battles, shields me, releases me from the shackles of my past, at last I have a friend who contends for me, he gave his life to set me free, I no longer need to flee, to hide my face in shame, no, he has taken all my blame, claims me as his own,  have never known a love like this, no longer feel like I should quit and his is a love like no other, he buffers me from so much pain, his love flows through my veins and nothing now can phase me, with God on my side who can be against me, one step at a time, that’s all it takes, he can cope with my mistakes so long as I keep my eyes on him, confess my sin and sincerely seek to make amends, he defends me, protects me, my God, my friend.